Can You Clarify That?

“The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.”  Proverbs 15:14

The look on her face was displayed as……annoyed, irked, bothered, miffed……you get the idea.  When my father’s surgical oncologist explained his diagnosis of aggressive bladder cancer, and I started to ask an array of questions, it was her face that I noticed.  I suspect that she did not know that she had just encountered a seasoned cancer patient, who was a therapist, and who had already researched bladder cancer.  I pushed on with the machine gun of questions and then said “Can you clarify that?.”  I often make this statement when I am unable to truly get a clear picture of the direction I need to go, this time, I said it because my mother and father had the look of confusion and puzzlement on their faces.  Big decisions had to be made, and at these times, it is critical that information is clear, concise, and realistic.  As I continue to break down my acronym “PEARS”, this week, I will highlight the importance of the letter “A”.

“A” stands for academia.  I chose this as I believe it is critical that we challenge ourselves to learn, to gain insight, and find the answers to the questions that often keep us up at night.  When I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2014, I did three important steps to help me familiarize myself with the journey I was about to take.  I approached it like I do when we travel…….I tend to be the one who books the hotels, makes a list of items to bring, and researches places to see.  I always want our vacation to be packed with fun and adventure.  So as I began my cancer journey, I obtained as much pertinent information I could handle.  My suitcase was full!

Step 1

Research what you are about to encounter.  I am a visual learner, so pictures are important.  In my father’s case, I pulled up reliable web sites, to show him diagrams of the bladder, what surgeries would be possible, and simple language that helped him absorb the information.  I could see the anxiety decrease immediately for him.  The trick is not to become obsessed with trying to find information.  I admit that following my diagnosis, my Ipad became my best friend.  And eventually my husband had to do an intervention.  He quickly helped me recognize that the sleep I was losing by researching, was not helping me.  I agreed and limited myself to a couple hours a day.  I strongly recommend that when researching, you do it in the morning.  Researching overwhelming information only creates sleepless nights and bad dreams.

Step 2

Call a friend that has been down the road you are about to travel.  I immediately called my friend who was fighting cancer, and I simply asked this question……

”Can you give me your best advice on how I should execute a plan for this cancer”?

She gave me a wealth of information that day and for the weeks to come.  I trusted her information as I knew she had already gone down the road I was about to be on.  I am pleased to say that I often receive calls from people now, asking for advice and now with my father facing the same demon, I feel as a family we are miles ahead due to my experience.  I know his road will be different, but my suitcase of experience, I hope will help.

 Step 3

Let your family be a part of the journey.  No matter what you are trying to figure out in your life. My husband and two adult children went to every critical appointment, took notes, and asked questions.  We would leave the meetings and then sat and compared notes.  And at those moments, we laughed because we had wished we would have audiotaped the appointment…….we asked, but that was not really something our doctors wanted!  By comparing notes, we were able to brainstorm what would be the best course of action.  My father has a critical appointment in two weeks.  Both my brothers and my mother will be with him and me.  My other brother will be on speaker phone.  Together we will help my father interpret the information so that he can make an informed decision.

When I began using Trüronia, I did so with those three steps in mind.  I researched the product.  I called someone that had been using it, and I asked my family to help me assess the product’s effects on me.  And when Trüronia asked me to consider writing this blog, I knew that the most powerful part of the information I would share would be the personal stories.  I truly believe that it is those stories that will help a person determine if this is the right juice for them.  And if you have been actively reading these blogs, the stories are amazing, true, and exciting.  In the next couple weeks, the interviews of people using the juice and their stories will inspire you to get this juice into your lives.  I promise!


The Writer

Gina Baker has been battling Stage 3 ovarian cancer since 2014. She is a farm wife, mother, grandmother, and a mental health therapist. She is a blogger for Trüronia and can be reached at

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